Rethinking Love, Life, Divorce, and What Makes a Happy Family.
In 2009, I wrote an essay for Slate’s Double X site about my “surprise” planned pregnancy, which came about shortly after I got engaged. Six years later, I wrote the bookend piece about the end of my marriage, which ran in the New York Times Modern Love column. The column became an episode of the Modern Love podcast, with the actress Molly Ringwald reading the essay followed by an interview with me.
In the first essay, I was struggling with how to make a family. In the second essay, I was struggling how to remake that family—which now included a second child—after the pain and trauma of divorce.
Since then, I have continued to write personal essays about how to have a “good divorce,” how to exist in the world as a part time mom of two young children, and the outside-the-box parenting methods I have turned to as a single parent.
On figuring out the best name for the father of my children.
Divorce and shared custody suits me, and it suits my kids, too.
Seven ways to get through a divorce when you have small children.
“Mom, can we talk about ‘Game of Thrones’?” my 4-year-old daughter asks at the dinner table, looking up at me hopefully. My 6-year-old son nods vigorously.
From divorce, a fractured beauty.
There’s a saying that if pregnancy were a book, they would cut the last two chapters. But how would the story begin? Whether planned or unplanned, I think it’s fair to say that the realization of every pregnancy starts with a sense of shock and awe.